The Girl Code Sins Of Megan & Kelsey

The foundation of Girl Code is empathy and grace, not blind loyalty and social bureaucracy.

Most of what needs to be said about Megan Thee Stallion’s In Her Words documentary has already been said:

• We don’t care that she lied to Gayle King about having sex with Tory. (Gayle shouldn’t have asked her about it in the first place, Megan told the truth in court, and we would have lied about fucking a balding, 4’11 troll who shot us, too.) 

• The entertainment industry is terrible for mental health and thrives off of misogyny. 

• Megan didn’t deserve what Tory did to her, period.

But what about Megan’s relationship with Kelsey, her former best friend and witness to the shooting? 

With the admission that she slept with Tory Lanez (once or twice, when she was really drunk, according to her) Megan seemed to confirm the narrative that she’d betrayed Kelsey, who was already intimate with the Canadian rapper. And make no mistake about it, Megan did. Secretly fucking the guy your bestie is also fucking is definitely weird and hurtful. Why not just run a train instead? It’s a Girl Code violation. So I understood why Megan and Kelsey were arguing on that fateful night, and why Kelsey wouldn’t want to be friends with Megan as a result. 

Watching In Her Words, it was obvious to me that Megan was heartbroken by Kelsey, that their friendship was another major loss in her life not simply because it ended but how Kelsey ended it. She colluded with Tory Lanez’s defense. For those still intent on punishing Megan for the harm done against her and those who don’t understand Girl Code, they think her pain is deserved and Kelsey’s actions were justified.

No the fuck it’s not. 

It’s one thing to cut your BFF off after some fuck shit. It’s another thing to watch the nigga you’ve been fucking shoot your BFF and immediately pick sides with him. If we’re measuring that Girl Code violation against sneaky linking with your besties sneaky link, it’s obvious which one is more heinous.